Power is in the Believer; Not in the Belief

I've always believed that the only actions you really need to take in life are having the necessary conversations to move your social life forward because relationships are all we got. The interconnectedness of all things. If you want to grow especially in your retirement years, you need to have conversations with friends, family and  partners. You need to have conversations with people in your community too. It's that simple. 

And yet, why is it so difficult to have these conversations? 

 Retired individuals tend to stay home a good bit of the day because they either love their home, they have health issues that make traveling challenging or they are shy.  For some people making new friends can be extremely challenging. Because we are so afraid of what the other person may think. We are afraid of receiving a negative response because of what we made the "no to acceptance" mean: rejection, failure, unworthiness. 

If you were raised to be judgmental of others because of their success, happiness, wealth, health, all that means is that you are judging yourself.  When you sit in judgment you become stagnant. Belief is a habit of mind. You have thought one way for such a long time, you believe it to be true. What you think and what you know are two very different things. Your job is to separate what you think from what you know. Your truths are not necessarily the truth. Make a paradigm shift and decide what you want to believe.  Ask yourself, "is what I'm believing working for me?"   How much of what I believe is actually true?  
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Make that call, arrange the lunch date, go play cards with the group at the community center, join a book group or call one friend and take a walk.